BY NANCY STOOPS
Nancy Stoops M.A., M.F.T Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Do you see a half-filled glass as half empty or as half full? Do you tend to see what’s wrong with your life, or do you focus on what is right with your life? Would you consider yourself a negative person or a positive person? Do you wake up everyday being happy to be alive and hopeful about a new day, or do you dread getting up?
The way that you have answered the above questions is probably also the way that you live your life, and the way you view your life. I believe having a positive attitude is foundational in being a successful human being. Being positive is essential to everything good that comes with this life. I think it all starts by being positive about who you are, and about behaving in a manner that makes you proud of whom you are.
Generally, if you like who you are and are a good person, people will like you as well. Also, if you like who you are, you will want only the best for yourself. This will cause you to go to college, get a good job, find a good mate, and believe that you can make your dreams comes true.
On the other hand, being negative only prevents you from following your dreams. Being negative also causes a lot of self doubt and really gets in the way of accomplishments.
Learn to look at the good in your life and at what you have done right so far. Learn from your mistakes, but don’t focus on them, otherwise your life will feel like one big mistake. Look at all that you already have going right for you and learn to build on the positive. If you do, more positivity will come to you.
This article was written by Nancy stoops, M.A., M.F.T. Nancy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a private practice in Diamond Bar, and is currently accepting new clients. Nancy also runs free family support groups, anger management groups, and special groups for seniors and teens. She is also available for motivational speaking engagements. For more information on any of these services, contact Nancy at (909)229-0727.
