BY DANICE AKIYOSHI, N.D.
Dr. Danice Akiyoshi
Dear Dr. Akiyoshi:
I’m a 25-year old, healthy female, and I decided to stop dating eight months ago. I don’t know if I’m attracting the wrong type of man, or if I’m too conservative. I need several dates before I can make a decision about intimacy. I became tired of men insinuating there was something wrong with me because I don’t want to follow their time frame. My mom is pressuring me to meet the contractor who is remodeling her kitchen. She says he’s a nice man, but they all seem like nice men at first. I want to say yes, because I trust my mom, but if it doesn’t work out I don’t want it to affect her kitchen.
I’m Nervous
Dear Nervous:
I agree that you should be able to trust your mom’s opinion, but just about anyone can present themselves as a good individual for a short period of time. The real key is when a person can offer decent behavior for a long period of time. This is where your struggles come into play. You are young, and people in your age group are often not fully mature yet. However, years added to someone’s age does not necessarily guarantee maturity. When the time feels right to you, accept dates with people who interest you. Take your own car, and meet in a place where you feel comfortable. Choose a location where unwanted advances won’t happen. If the guy is willing to continue this way until you are comfortable, then you can branch out to other types of dates. As for your mom’s contractor, I would wait until her kitchen is finished.
Good luck,
Danice Akiyoshi ND
Danice Akiyoshi is a Naturopathic Doctor and the head of Candid Coaching Service. She has a great passion for alternative healing and has over 20 years of experience in this field. She provides a form of energy psychology called The Emotion Code, where she helps people literally get rid of their emotional baggage. She also offers personal coaching services relating to all types of issues and concerns. This is a letter she received from an anonymous reader. To send a question to Danice, email her at straighttalk@candidcoachingservices.com. You can also visit her website at http://www.candidcoachingservices.com.
