Dear Dr. Akiyoshi:
My best friend is perfect in every way, but for some reason she is always criticizing herself and her appearance. Now I’m starting to feel self-conscious every time I’m around her. She is much prettier than I am, so if she magnifies her own flaws, I wonder what she must think of me. I’m starting to avoid her unless I’m looking my best. What should I do?
Farzi
Hi, Farzi:
Your friend might be suffering from insecurity or low self esteem. Just because she judges herself harshly does not mean that she has the same magnifying glass on you. Don’t avoid your friend. Share your feelings instead and help her see her true value.
Danice Akiyoshi, ND
Dr. Danice Akiyoshi
Danice Akiyoshi is a Naturopathic Doctor and the head of Candid Coaching Service. She offers personal coaching services relating to all types of issues and concerns. This is a letter she received from an anonymous reader. To send a question to Danice, email her at straighttalk@candidcoachingservices.com. You can also visit her website at http://www.candidcoachingservices.com.
